Because really; I am getting absolutely TIRED of seeing these stereotypes/ blame get pelted on us everywhere I go. So please do stay with me if you've ever had any bone to pick with fujioshi, or yaoi fangirls. Or if you have the following misconceptions.
[Note: Do NOT google 'yaoi' or any terms from the following if you have no idea what it is. I shan't be held responsible for any ensuing trauma]
1. Myth 1: We're rabid/ have no life.
Why us? Every shipper's community, whether their favourite pairings are gay, lesbian or straight, has its share of immature trolls like these. It's a human trait of the individual's intolerance; not the characteristic of any community. So yes; we have rabid people here, but the rest of the majority are accepting, realistic and sane. Our communities would've fallen apart from fan wars long ago if this wasn't the case.
2. Myth 2: We're fag hags.
Man; I HATE this one. Again, this applies to the individual. It's up to the person whether they respect another's privacy. And I really don't give two figs about seeing anyone act out their love life; thank you very much.
3. Myth 3: We ship our favourite hot guys with men 'cause we can't stand:
a) to see them with women
b)the idea we can't have them to ourselves.
c) those guys are hot.
a) I know many who do like the idea of their fave male character with other women. Only it's a mild fancy, and not as strong a passion as they have for their gay pairing. As for me, I'm a loyal 'one-on-one' shipper. So the guy goes with that one guy; and the women go with women/ other guys.
b) Some of us are gay or bi too. =.=
c) My policy for a) wouldn't apply if this were true. Let's face it, practically every other guy in anime is hot in their own ways. So there has to be other reasons why we have the particular preferences we do. (Mine's character history and chemistry/ potential.)
4. Myth 4: We always want a strictly bottoming dude who's unbearably girly and can't stand the idea of gay couples who both look like men.
(*shudders) Hell no! A girly guy on the cover is the fastest way to get me to head for the hills. That'd be basically a straight pairing wouldn't it?
I'll admit; this practice is more common than it should be (unfortunately). But there are also a sizable portion among us who understand/ appreciate flexibility, 'cause that's real. Just like guys who don't give each other flowers, cry on a whim or bust the 'L' word at the drop of a hat are real. And reality is all the more touching when it works than sugary fantasies. That's the universal rule for any kind of romance; gay, les or straight.
That's all I can think of at the moment. Bottom line is: these behaviours/ tendencies apply to only a portion of the fujioshi community and one drop does not make the ocean. I hope that dispels some misunderstandings out there. Please feel free to ask any questions, and thank you for reading thus far!